Counselling Advice & Guidance
We have two qualified school counsellors.
Ms Dean is our Lead Counsellor. If you require any support and advice, please speak to your Head of Year who will then be able to refer you to Ms Dean.
Below is some advice and support on various topics, which may be able to support you.
Anxiety and Stress
The most common problem among children and young people, anxiety affects approximately 1 in 4 young people. However, anxiety is treatable.
Everyone has anxiety from time to time. There are many situations we have in life that can be stressful and cause us to feel anxious. Before seeking help try the following techniques:
7/11 Breathing– Whilst breathing in count to 7 in your head. When breathing out count out 11 in your head. (This can also stop a panic attack)
Distractions– Taking your mind elsewhere and keeping yourself busy. e.g. Reading, puzzles and games.
Exercise– Keeping your body healthy and in shape is important. We all have adrenaline that needs to be used. When we are stressed or anxious our adrenaline increases. Physical exercise is a good way to burn the adrenaline and you will also feel an achievement which increases the endorphins (the chemical that creates happiness)
The following resources are also helpful:
What is Depression?
Depression is an extreme low mood that lasts a long time and makes a person feel sad, irritable or empty. One in four young people will experience depression before they are 19 years old. A person with low mood or depression:
has much less energy to do activities
feels like nothing matters
sees life in a negative way
feels like it will never get better
Try some of the techniques on the Anxiety/Stress page as they can also help with depression.
If you feel that you have tried everything you can and are still feeling low. Please speak to a parent/an adult at school/School Counsellor or your GP. There are also dedicated helplines that are listed on this website.
Depressed people do get better and depression does end.
The Internet and Social Media
Social media communication is a “way of life” for young people. There are benefits and risks associated with internet use.
Parents should be advised to be interested and engaged in young people’s online world.
Easy access to information,peers and support groups.
Connect with family
Exploring the world.
Learning about others.
Threats of exposure
We also have an online safety officer (Mr Jones). If you have any concerns about the internet or social media. Please see your Head of Year, Mr Jones or Ms Dean.
GOOD ATTENDANCE IS THE FIRST STEP TO SCHOOL SUCCESS.
There are also a number of useful exam and revision techniques that can be found here – https://www.sjcr.net/for-students/revision-guidance-ampuptherevision/
Mental wellness is just as important as physical health.
Everyone has mental health, some days it is great and other days it is not so good. When it is not so good for a period of time, you need to seek help.
Self help guide: Before seeking professional help from a Counsellor or GP first try:
Talking about your problems with family or a trusted friend
Write your problems down and try to work through a positive solution for yourself.
Take regular physical exersise
Look at the situation with a “Can Do” attitude
If these attempts have not succeeded then speak to your School Counsellor.
Self harming behaviour amongst young people is common.
10% 15-16 y/o females and 3% males admit to self harm in the last year
About 25% of young people self harm on one occasion – most commonly by cutting
Recurring self harm less common – 9.5% young people harmed 4 or more occasions
Young people’s positive views (Young Minds VIK 2013)
‘Specialist liaison and community mental health teams are generally helpful.’
‘Young people valued collaborative working which balanced power, leading to trusting relationships that facilitated therapeutic sharing of responsibility.’
‘Young people thought that emotional aspects of self-harm management were more important than the medical and physical aspects of treatment.’
‘Young people highly valued clear communication and a fuller understanding of self-harm, with a caring and sensitive approach from all professionals.’
Spotting the signs of Anorexia
Severe weight loss/difficulty sleeping/dizziness/stomach pains/ feeling cold/poor circulation/thinning hair/ amenorrhea.
Rituals around food/counting calories/cutting out food groups/wearing baggy clothes/ avoiding or compulsively checking mirrors and scales/social withdrawal/excessive exercise.
Fear of fatness/feeling overweight when emaciated/ agitated/drive to be perfect in everything/rigid thinking/seeing in all or nothing terms/high level anxiety
Spotting the signs of Bulimia Nervosa
Sore throat/bad breath/irregular periods/dry skin/ difficulty sleeping/calluses in knuckles.
Eating food in secret or at irregular times/ bingeing/visiting the bathroom/self induced vomiting/use of laxatives/diet pills or diuretics/excessive exercise.
Emotional and depressed/feeling out of control/ obsessed with dieting/disgust and shame in purging
Signs of Binge Eating Disorder
Weight gain/stomach pains/poor skin/difficulty sleeping.
Eating food in secret or at irregular times/ bingeing.
Emotional and depressed/feeling out of control/ obsessed with dieting/low self esteem
It is important to remember that everyone grieves differently. There is no set time for when grief begins or ends.
Anytime that we loose a loved one whether it be a family member, friend or a pet, it can be an incredibly difficult and sad time.
The key point to remember is to give yourself time to grieve.
A minimum of 8 to 9 hours’ good sleep on school nights is recommended for teens.
It’s official – regular exercise helps you sleep more soundly, as well as improving your general health.
Teenagers should be aiming for at least 60 minutes’ exercise every day, including aerobic activities such as fast walking and running.
Exercising out in daylight will help to encourage healthy sleep patterns, too.
Try to get into a regular bedtime routine. Doing the same things in the same order an hour or so before bed can help you drift off to sleep.
Talk to your parents about anything you’re worried about. This will help you to put your problems into perspective and sleep better. You could also write down your worries or make a to-do list before you go to bed. This should mean you will less likely to lie awake worrying during the night.
Why do People Bully & Harass Others?
Bullying & harassment are intentional-people who bully mean to hurt someone. People bully and harass to:
Get Their Own Way
Feel Better About Themselves By Making Others Feel Worse
Control Their Friendships (who is included/excluded)
Other Helpful Resources